Do you find it hard to calibrate when there are numerous gut-wrenching events taking place? I do. I know when I share positive news to help you stay focused on your priorities as thoughtful leaders, it may come off as tone-deaf to some people depending on what’s most affecting them. Believe me, as an empath, I’m feeling it all every day, but what I’m feeling is of no consolation to people experiencing trauma. The best I can offer: let’s do what we can in our own sphere to create a ripple effect toward places in need.
And for you, the thoughtful leader, I’d like to bring up the topic of compassion in business, because I had a realization: compassion cannot happen without communication.
What do I mean? When you know what someone is going through, compassion comes readily, I’m sure. But what about those times when someone is behaving differently, or badly, but you don’t know why. They’re not sharing what’s up, and that can make it feel personal. Even though we all know the 2nd rule in “The 4 Agreements,” it’s easy enough to slip into defensive mode, and that’s not good for anyone.
How do you deal with situations when you’d like to be supportive, but you don’t want to accept bad behavior and/or come off looking weak?
I’ll offer this, and then I’d like to hear from you all: compassion requires communication. If they’re not forthcoming, trust your instincts and know something is up. Ask gently with the intention of providing assistance if you can. If they push you off, let it go after conveying you sense something is up. Suggest they find someone in whom they can confide to help them deal with whatever it is and how they’re showing up for their work colleagues.
And now for this week’s shares:
- On the surface, you could just use this to end some arguments about pre-rinsing dishes before putting them into the dishwasher. Or you could look at it as a prompt to re-examine some business processes that technology may help streamline for you. Or, you know, pre-rinsing…
- On Instagram, StoicMindset talks about research that showed children became increasingly LESS creative over time (researchers pointed to schools), but this made me wonder about managers who provide too much instruction and lose the opportunity to have teams innovate their way to better solutions.